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My Partner’s Definition of “What is Porn” is Different from Mine—We are at an Impasse—Now What?!
In episode 186, Mark & Steve address a very difficult and sensitive topic sent in to PBSE by the partner of an addict in recovery— "My...
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Jul 25, 20232 min read
My Porn/Sex Addict Partner’s “Empathy Button” is Broken! What Can I Do?
The title for Episode 185 may sound a bit strange—"My Porn/Sex Addict Partner’s 'Empathy Button' is Broken! What Can I Do?" Actually, the...
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Jul 18, 20232 min read
How can we Connect When My Partner Acts Out and Then Goes to Shame—Silent, Stoic and Self-Absorbed?!
I In Episode 184, Mark and Steve respond to a PBSE listener's situation and question. This is a VERY common situation that MANY partners...
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Jul 11, 20232 min read
“Clearing Away the Wreckage of Your Past"—Recovery Lessons from Steve’s Metal Detecting Trip
Almost 30 years ago, when PBSE co-founder Steve Moore was 13-years-old, his father was killed in a plane crash. This traumatic event...
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Jul 4, 20231 min read
I Want My Addict Partner to SUFFER; to Feel TERRIBLE like I do! How Can I Stop these Feelings?!
In episode 182, Mark and Steve respond to a very authentic, vulnerable and VERY direct question from a PBSE listener— "Can you address...
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Jun 27, 20231 min read
Evolve from Treating the “Symptoms of Addiction” to a Real & Lasting “Change of Heart & Mind."
In episode 180, Mark and Steve address an insightful inquiry from a porn/sex addict seeking a real and lasting change of heart and mind...
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Jun 20, 20232 min read
Should I Pay Off My New Spouse's "Porn Debt" So We Can Have a Solid Financial Start?
We KNOW this episode title sounds crazy! But, many partners of porn/sex addicts face some hard decisions about where to "draw boundaries"...
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Jun 13, 20231 min read
Is There a “Statute of Limitations” on Feelings, Betrayal Trauma and Disclosure?
In Episode 178, Mark and Steve address an all-too-common situation and question faced and asked by porn/sex addicts in recovery and their...
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Jun 6, 20231 min read
How do I Stop Comparing Myself to Porn and His Sexual Fantasies?
In Episode 177, Mark and Steve address a very heart-felt question sent in by a PBSE listener— "My partner recently came clean to me about...
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May 30, 20231 min read
If “Sex is Optional,” How can a Couple Possibly Stay Connected?!
In this episode Mark and Steve address a super common question—if "sex is optional" in a relationship, then how can a couple possibly...
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May 23, 20232 min read
How Can We Avoid the Traps and Pitfalls of Addiction Recovery and Betrayal Trauma Healing?
Episode 175 finds Steve and his wife on vacation on the island of Hilo in Hawaii. Hilo is the site of an actual "active" volcano. While...
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May 16, 20231 min read
What Keeps us Stuck in Addiction and What Does “Real” Recovery Look Like?
The partners of sex/porn addicts can find it difficult or near impossible to discern whether or not their partner is still "stuck in...
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May 9, 20232 min read
What Happens When we “Weaponize” What Could be “Healthy Boundaries”?
Healthy Boundaries are CRITICAL to our individual happiness and authenticity—AND—to our connection as a couple. But when we're not...
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May 2, 20232 min read
“Normal Human Attraction” vs. “Toxic/Betraying Lust”?
In Episode 172, Mark and Steve tackle a topic that is extremely difficult, triggering and traumatizing for the partners of porn/sex...
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Apr 25, 20232 min read
What can I do about “Random ED Symptoms” in Sexual Intimacy with my Partner?!
Erectile Dysfunction (ED) is a VERY common challenge among those struggling with porn/sex addiction AND also common for addicts in...
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Apr 18, 20232 min read
What can I do about “Random ED Symptoms” in Sexual Intimacy with my Partner?!
Erectile Dysfunction (ED) is a VERY common challenge among those struggling with porn/sex addiction AND also common for addicts in...
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Apr 18, 20232 min read
Is There a Place for Sexual Boundaries in Your Coupleship?
Once an addict starts into recovery and his partner begins her journey of healing betrayal trauma, a couple should immediately look at...
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Apr 11, 20231 min read
As a Partner in Betrayal Trauma, I Feel Resentment Toward my Addict Partner. How do I Manage this?!
In episode 169, Mark and Steve address a very raw and real scenario and question from the partner of a porn/sex addict. As a partner...
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Apr 4, 20232 min read
How a lifetime of “Communication Trauma” can prevent “Healthy Connection” in the Here and Now.
We have all suffered from "communication trauma" in our life experiences! This can too easily get in the way and/or sabotage healthy...
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Mar 28, 20232 min read
The “Fallacy of Fairness”—Why I Cannot Stand Up For Myself with my Partner.
In this episode, Mark & Steve address a PBSE listener's question about WHY she has trouble standing her ground, having a voice, speaking...
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Mar 21, 20231 min read
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