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Spiritual Safety and Sexual Intimacy: You Can Have Both!

In this episode, Mark and Steve address a questions submitted by a listener— "Can you discuss the dynamic of being the spouse of an addict who is not a believer? In my marriage there has been sexual addiction and he is 2 1/2 years into recovery/sobriety but we are now dealing with the dynamic of a sexless marriage. How can we make the transition to a healthy sexual connection void of a spiritual connection?" First, we need to be clear about what "healthy sex" is and is not. (for a deeper dive on this, see PBSE episode #23: Healthy vs. Toxic Sex) - Healthy sex begins with a strong emotional/spiritual connection. It's all about "what you bring with you." - Seeking to understand and then to be understood. - Focus/appreciation on your partner as a "whole" as opposed to selective "parts." - Physical intimacy is a gauged physical expression of a point on the Connection Spectrum. Second, we also need to be clear about "Spirituality" vs. "Religiosity." - Religion is an institution/organization of spiritual concepts, doctrines, structure, ordinances, core tenets, etc. Spirituality is the "relationship accompaniment" to religion. Religion gives me a definition of God; Spirituality is coming to know and communing with God. - Healthy Sexual Intimacy is a coming together of physical bodies AND spiritual bodies. A key to a truly connection relationship is finding the "commonalities" and "intersection" of our individual spiritual beliefs/worlds. A true coming together.

Find out more about Steve Moore at: Ascension Counseling

Learn more about Mark Kastleman at: Reclaim Counseling Services Here's a great article on the "Brain Science" behind porn and sex addiction— Here's an article about healing Betrayal Trauma— Want to learn more about HOW to break free from porn?— Wondering if your marriage can survive porn and sex addiction? This article will give you some hope—

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