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TV, Movies & Media in a Betrayed Relationship—Part One: What to do if you are the addict.
Something that can be a BIG issue for couples—when one is a porn/sex addict in recovery and the other is a betrayed spouse trying to...
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Feb 15, 20222 min read
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Are Your “Resentments” Holding You Back?
Resentment is a POWERFUL emotion! And while it most certainly can be very legitimate based on actual events, history, betrayal, etc., it...
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Feb 9, 20221 min read
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As a Spouse, You Have “4 Primary Rights” with Regard to His Disclosure!
One of THE most important milestones in real recovery is when a porn/sex addict prepares a completely transparent and authentic...
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Feb 1, 20221 min read
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How Can I Ever Dare to Trust Him Again?
When there has been Betrayal Trauma, it can seem impossible to ever dare to fully trust again. A PBSE listener describes this struggle as...
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Jan 25, 20221 min read
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All the ways we convince ourselves we are “entitled” to act out in our addictions.
There are MANY reasons the ego-addict part of the brain convinces us that we are entitled to escape into our addiction outlets. These can...
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Jan 18, 20221 min read
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How do we move out of a “Trauma Response” into “Relationships Authenticity”? (Part Two)
Once you recognize that you and/or your partner are caught in a "Trauma Response," HOW can you intentionally move into a place of...
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Jan 11, 20221 min read
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How do I Recognize when I or my Partner are Caught in a "Trauma Response"? (Part One)
There are MANY "trauma triggers" that can create great conflict, pain and difficulty between partners. If you truly desire to work on...
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Jan 4, 20221 min read
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New Year’s Resolutions Can Make Addiction Worse! Try this Instead.
In this episode, Mark & Steve talk raw and real about why the traditional "New Year's Resolution" failed for them SO many times—and often...
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Dec 28, 20211 min read
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How to Balance Christmas (and other holidays) with the Trauma of Recovery & Healing
In what can sometimes be the "hellish" experience of addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing, can we still find wonder, enjoyment...
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Dec 21, 20211 min read
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When Stress Hits—STAND UP for Your Personal & Couple-ship "Bill of Rights"!
Everyone faces different kinds of STRESS in everyday life. But, when we're in addiction recovery or healing from betrayal trauma, that...
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Dec 14, 20211 min read
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This is Our 100th Episode! In the Pain of Addiction & Betrayal Trauma—There is GREAT HOPE!
Although we can't quite believe it, this is PBSE's 100th Episode!!! Thank you to all our listeners who made this possible! It would...
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Dec 7, 20211 min read
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My Spouse is in Recovery but will NOT have Sex with Me! What Can I Do?
There are plenty of situations where an addict spouse wants to have sex all the time. There are situations where the spouse suffering...
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Nov 30, 20211 min read
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How Do We Find Connection When There’s Been “Mutual Betrayal”?
A PBSE listener recently sent in a situation and question— He has been in recovery and "clean" for a year. At one point during that year...
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Nov 23, 20211 min read
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What Should Come First—Him Ending His Affair, or Us Starting Couples Counseling?
We know—the title of this episode is INSANE!!! But it comes from an actual question sent in by a PBSE listener— My partner and I are...
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Nov 16, 20212 min read
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How Can I “Adequately” Explain to My Spouse WHY I Looked at Porn?
Here's a question from a PBSE listener— I am a recovering sex and porn addict working on my recovery and trying to reconcile with my...
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Nov 9, 20212 min read
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My Husband Watches Female Professional Wrestling. Is That a Problem?
In this episode, Mark and Steve respond to a listener who asks a very important question about one of her spouse's favorite...
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Nov 2, 20212 min read
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As an Addict, How Can You Move Past Your Defensiveness to Truly Connect With Your Spouse?
In this episode, Mark and Steve respond to a PBSE listener's sincere inquiry about HOW to move through his defensiveness in response to...
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Oct 26, 20211 min read
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Has Your Addict Partner Truly "Forgotten" His Past Discretions OR is He "Gaslighting" You?
In this episode, Mark and Steve take on a PBSE listener's question about her husband's "claim of not being able to remember the details...
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Oct 19, 20212 min read
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How Do I Overcome the Shame of My Past "Toxic Sex/Me-Centered" Behaviors?
In this episode Mark and Steve respond to a very heart-felt question by a PBSE listener— My wife and I recently listened to your episode...
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Oct 12, 20211 min read
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Is My Partner Lying About His Porn Use? How Can I Know?
How do you know if your partner is telling you the truth about his porn use and other sexual behaviors? A PBSE listener recently...
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Oct 5, 20212 min read
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