In this episode, Mark and Steve address and excellent question submitted by a PBSE listener—
In the book written by Gary Chapman it talks about the 5 Love Languages. My husband says his love language is physical touch. Are most sex addicts love language physical touch? As a spouse how do I honor my needs and authentically respect myself? {there are days I don't want to make eye contact, much less touch him after the betrayal} How do I make sense of this?
- If a spouse is a codependent, unhealthy and/or in an unbalanced state, then physical touch/sex as a love language is a misnomer.
- Looking at love vs. need and choosing vs. requiring as it applies to sex and physical touch in a relationship.
- Compulsive behaviors, including porn addiction, rewire the brain, placing physical touch/sex on a PEDESTAL—not as an optional component of giving and expressing love but as THE way to connect.
- Truly connected sexual intimacy is NOT manufactured but is the culmination and celebration of working to build ALL of the areas of holistic intimacy in a relationship.
- A healthy guy will have an affinity for physical touch among many other forms of connection. It will NOT be the sole "need" but rather an "optional desire."
- Be willing to explore ways in which sex may have become an unhealthy need or demand and HOW you can begin to move the needle toward it becoming a healthy desire and one piece of your overall holistic intimacy puzzle.
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